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V I R G I N I T Y - W H E R E T O ?
Although anyone seems to be familiar with the meaning of the term virginity, its initial sense is unknown to most people. In antiquity, this term was not attributed to women who did not have any sexual experiences, but it referred to the social or even psychological state in which a woman is not tied up to a man, she is independent from any man.
Only when marriage, possessiveness, and monogamy became leading rules in our society the fact whether the woman was "untouched", "pure" and "innocent" or not began to grow in importance.
Proofs of the woman's virginity were asked, and then began to emerge various habits regarding the loss of virginity. Medically speaking, it appears that many people have been wrong, and many innocent women have had to suffer because if these aberrant preconceived ideas.
Here is what the statistics tell us:
Only 42% of the women are born with a hymen that bleeds, 47% have a very flexible hymen, and 11% have such a thin hymen that it may break at normal movements of the body. Under these circumstances, can the hymen still be such a strict criteria as it has been wrongfully considered for centuries?
For a long time, virginity was considered as a state that should be preserved for as long as possible, being guarded as a precious treasure that needed to be adjudged to the most passionate and perhaps loving of all the competitors.
The mothers, grandmothers and "mademoiselles" of the so-called cultured environments had a saying: "for a woman to lose her virtue is worse than losing her neck". Even if the words changed, the mentality has remained the same.
Especially for women, the importance of preserving their "virtue" was a taboo subject, in the conditions when men were allowed, even encouraged to lose their virginity, and they were admired, even celebrated on the occasion of this event.
Any man playing the role of a Don Juan in the daily life is regarded with great admiration and considered an intelligent "lady-killer", of whose virtue nobody cares anymore.
Moreover, his affairs are considered as funny and amusing, actions that test his virility, exemplifying his capacity of controlling the feminine nature.
However, these days things are a bit different, and this is clear, because a great part of the "traditional" vales on feminine "virtue" have changed.
Nowadays nobody needs to steal any body's "virtue", moreover, preserving it is considered a kind of old, obsolete capital. Men and women are equally free to lose their virginity whenever they want, and with whomever they chose.
Nonetheless, the loss of virginity remains a crucial moment in each of our lives. Undoubtedly, even today the loss of virginity may be just as traumatic as 50 years ago.
Because it is sometimes confuse, other times exciting, or even frightening, it represents at the same time the passage to adulthood.
However, sometimes this passage is caused either by a desire of rebellion,or by curiosity, other times by a strong sexual drive, and unfortunately more rarely by love.
THE LOSS OF VIRGINITY MAY MARK THE FUTURE OF THE SEXUAL LIFE
Is this a common experience? Is it caused by a usual necessity? How does a person prepare for this important chapter in their lives? Most people are not aware of the great impact this experience has on the sexual life of the young adult.
The moment in which the virginity is lost may radically and definitely mark the future sexual live of a person. Therefore, each of us should prepare before making this big step.