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V I R G I N I T Y - W H E R E T O ?
Here is what Dan recalls:
"I was at a party and I was pretty excited by the girl I was dancing with. We used to study and hang out together for more than six months. We went up into the bedroom and began kissing. You know how things go from one into another in those times. We began to caress each other everywhere. Although we both were so scared, we were at the same time too excited to stop."
Did the first erotic experience offer this young man everything he wanted, everything he expected of it?
"It was all so fast, we were so afraid that someone might show up through the bedroom door, that I ejaculated almost instantly." Did his girlfriend get to have an orgasm? "I frankly do not know. I hope she did." This is one way of losing your virginity. Not the most desirable, indeed.
However, there are also pleasant instances as the one below: Jenny, a young woman of 18: "I gave myself to my lover when I was 15. We were on a trip, in the mountains. We had been together for 2 years, he was also 15 and we were so much in love with one another. The "event" was sweet and intimate and I really felt it was a step forward in my erotic life."
Mary, 29 confesses: "Although I had begun to stimulate myself from the age of 12, I still haven't learned how to let my body go with its desires, with its instincts.
I could not feel the savory pleasure that I now experience every time. Lucky me, my lover was older and more experienced than me, so he knew exactly what and how to do it.
He also had a great sense of humor and knew how to make me feel at ease under any circumstances, so I was not inhibited. I was a bit nervous, as anyone should be, but things were under control and his help and caring were most welcomed and appreciated."
Most women chose for their first sexual "adventure" older, more experienced lovers. The men go for the same qualities, choosing older women, sometimes even their mothers' friends, their bosses' wives, their teachers.
20 % OF THE WOMEN HIDE FROM THEIR LOVERS THE FACT THAT THEY WERE VIRGINS
A survey performed on the disputed theme of virginity indicate that not less than 20% of the women have hid this fact from their lovers. Well, this percentage is much higher in the case of men: 50%!
This fact was explained before: the preconceived idea that a man's virginity is not considered a "prise" as is the case of women; men are supposed to have erotic experience from an early age.
Most people who answered this survey have stated that their first sexual experience took place in a car, in a friend's house, in a cabin, outdoors, in the green grass.
Only one person confessed it happened in an elevator (how original!). A boy chose an alley in the park, and another has gained his manhood after a tough "fight" on hid girlfriend's kitchen table.
Most people have reported that the decision was mutual, and 25% of the women confessed they had been talked into doing it by their lovers.
However, this is a big surprise: 33% of the women told that they chose their first lover on the basis of love. Another important reason for getting "there" was claimed to be the curiosity, especially among men.
A striking fact is the following: only very few women based their choice on physical demeanor, as compared to the great majority of men who were actually driven by this aspect.
The problem of virginity certainly appears at least once in every woman's life. We say that because there are women who sometimes recourse to doctors to "regain" their virginity, out of very personal reasons.
Was your first erotic experience successful? Was it as you wanted it to be? Or was it something transient, without importance, to which you wouldn't look back?