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W H A T A R E T H E "L O V E M U S C L E S" ?
The standard exercises for the pelvic muscles consist in repeated contractions and relaxations of these muscles.
However, as we already said, they are effective for gaining a minimum of muscular tonus for recovering the muscular fiber after giving birth or for strengthening it when an already existing weakness is causing a physiological dysfunction.
Nonetheless, the overall muscular tonus required for the general functioning of the pelvis is completely different and smaller than the muscular tonus required for the sexual act.
In order to improve one’s sexual performances, the Kegel exercises need to be perfected, and transformed into a series of exercises designed especially for this purpose.
If you desire to improve significantly your sexual performance and the quality of your orgasms, the standard program of exercises is not enough.
The basic Kegel exercises will not result in sufficient muscular strength or in the resistance and coordination required for a spectacular improvement of your erotic performances.
For this purpose you need to practice for the erotic act itself. You need to practice so that you copy the rhythms, the positions, and the forces present during lovemaking.
USE YOUR MENTAL POWER
Indeed there are women whose pelvic muscles are strong and well-developed and yet they are not able to experience the orgasm.
In the case of such women, it is highly useful if they focus their attention during lovemaking in the genital area, trying to experience each sensation of pleasure that arises.
In the yoga practice, the fact that the mind direct and channels the energy is a fact of common knowledge. Therefore, the mental focus on the genital area during lovemaking will channel the energy in this particular area, improving the erotic experience.
Consequently, both the vaginal contractions and the mental focus have the same purpose: increasing the energy in the pelvic area, facilitating the experience of orgasm.
The erotic experience is definitely subjective. There is indeed a causal link between the sexual stimulation and the sexual excitement, but ultimately the decisive factor in determining how pleasurable the erotic act is, is the psychic component.
Masters and Johnson discovered that even in a state of excitement the erotic response of both men and women could be immediately shut off by another type of stimuli, either a powerful distracting noise, or the loss of mental focus, or tiredness, emotional discomfort of any kind (anxiety, anger, uncertainty).
In some cases, the repeated incapacity of becoming sexually aroused can lead to self-closure, and mental blockages, which will inhibit any further progress.
We need to keep in mind that in order for the lovemaking to be truly sublime, it needs to be an integration of the psychological, emotional, and physical aspects.
And a proven fact is that sexuality has nothing but benefits from the supplemental pelvic tonus. Many actual studies indicate that the muscular tonus and strength can do wonders for a woman during lovemaking.
If you have problems with the sexual arousal, the physical improvement of this aspect will allow you to focus also on the emotional and psychological component.
These "sexual contractions" will prepare you for pleasure. Learning a method to keep your normal and healthy functioning of your genitals, and in the presence of the other components - love, attraction, respect, security, and proper mental stimulus - the erotic act that you will experience will be the most pleasurable ever.