sivasakti.net - Spontaneity And Lovemaking. Part 1

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S P O N T A N E I T Y A N D L O V E M A K I N G

Ecstasy: in Greek the prefix "ex" is generally translated as "outside", and "staxis" as "to stay". Consequently, amorous ecstasy refers to the erotic state obtained through erotic union performed only with continence of transcending any state of consciousness and escaping from the monotony of the ordinary lovemaking.

An obvious fact needs to be stated in the beginning of this article: we cannot enounce instructions that would generate spontaneity in our readers, because one cannot be spontaneous while following specific instructions.

Just as the inspiration of the artist consists in seeing things from a personal perspective, the spontaneity in lovemaking is first and most important of all a matter of feeling.

The direct, intimate perception of your lover, the true and genuine feelings, and the perceptions of your lover's sensations will generate an immediate, intuitive knowledge that acts as a psychological guide of what you have to do.

In the following, we will still make some suggestion, hoping in a deeper and better understanding of the term spontaneity and its importance in a steady couple relationship.

What you are about to read are not rules, nor techniques, they are rather merely impulses in the right direction for those who would want such impulses.

Think of the first time you ever wanted to ride a bicycle. You did need a first impulse at that time. Think of the following in the same terms. After the first lessons, it is so easy to open up and enjoy the naturalness, and relaxation that any further suggestion or hint becomes useless.

As one may easily notice, any great artist has begun to truly create something after he has come out of his or her master's influence. Lord Byron, the Romantic poet said that when one begins to create, "ten thousands of delicate inspirations" come our way.

Let us now move to what concerns us at this point. Lovemaking is grossly made of three parts: kiss, caress and the lovemaking itself.

THE KISS
How many ways of kissing are there? Maybe more than the raindrops that gently caress the flowers in the spring. The lovers may kiss each other by simply touching the tips of their tongues, simply enjoying this sensation.

Careful only to the sensations and reactions that they have, careful only at the impulse and ardent desire of doing what they were doing. Important is the simple touch of the tongues, without trying to direct your lover's tongue one way or another, without inhibiting this passionate movement, and without necessarily staying still.

In other words, allow your tongue to move freely, as in a dazzling dance, feeling, tasting, and doing any movement that you might want, or maybe none of the above, just being relaxed and intimate with your lover.

Thus, you allow all your yearnings to manifest freely, without doing a certain gesture; or rather your tongue becomes the gesture, feeling the flavor of divine nectar.

THE LUCID DRUNKENNESS OF LOVE
Very soon you will notice, thrilled, that your tongue seems to have a mind of its own, and knows exactly what to do. All you need to do at this point is to feel and express freely and directly what you experience.

Feeling is now more than just tasting, it is also perceiving the warmth, the moisture, the softness, the breath - all are mere calls to touch.

Even if you spend in this lucid drunkenness of love moments or hours on end, it is sure that you will want to feel and touch your lover not only with your tongue, but also with your lips, kissing your lover's lips and any part of her body, according to some tacit "agreements".

There is no need to inhibit the movements of your lips or tongue, simply allow them to move freely, spontaneously and playfully on your lover's body.

There is no possibility, in this whole wide world that could get you know your lover as directly and as personally as allows this sacred intimacy.

Someone compared this type of kissing with a stellar painting, filled with bright colors, in four dimensions, a cosmic diagram of the feelings and inner experiences that appear in a person when the kissing flows freely and naturally from the lips of both lovers, as the blood flows in the veins.