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S P O N T A N E I T Y A N D L O V E M A K I N G
Naturally, the same principle is valid not only in relation with the lips, but also with the hands. A spontaneous loving caress is like a kiss of the fingers and the skin.
Just as we can say that there is something ineffable and special awakening inside of us when we touch, when we feel our belovedís lips, mouth and tongue, the same is valid for the touch of the hands.
Honore de Balzac realized this thing and expressed it admirably in "The Psychology of Marriage":
"The hand is the way through which the entire force of a person manifests, and is quite remarkable the fact that the people with a powerful intellect have almost always beautiful hands; perfect hands are a characteristic of a superior mind. Through the pores of the hand circulates the very life and anything they touch is imprinted with a magical force."
The hands have a priceless role in all of loveís pleasures and games. The hands can be dry, burning, wet, cold, soft, harsh or oily. They can be gentle, or tough, or thrilled or caressing or rigid. In short, the hands represent and give birth to a mysterious phenomenon that we are tempted to call "the reincarnation of the soul" in the hand.
THE MUSIC OF THE FEELING
It is absurd and unnatural to direct our hands and fingers for stimulating only certain anatomic areas, as does a piano player who carefully places each of his fingers in order to touch only one part of the instrument.
Fortunately, our hands know intuitively the correct notes they need to play in order to awaken and express love feelings, to awaken the harmony of the elevating music in the belovedís body.
Gradually, we get to feel in a very direct manner the echo of all the wonderful experiences our beloved has, perceived as a vibration of the entire body, as if your common experiences enhanced and amplified one another, as in an arpeggio of spontaneous crescendos, in harmonies, rhythms, or melodies that become a genuine creation of lyrical echoes.
Be it a finger, a hand, both hands, or your entire bodies, all is touch. A kiss is a touch. So is the lovemaking itself. In fact, the foreplay and lovemaking have in common more things that we might imagine, and the passing from foreplay to lovemaking needs to be natural and fluid.
If both lovers are spontaneous, then the caresses, kisses, foreplay and lovemaking are all an embrace sprung out of passionate, endless love. It is all as a poem dedicated to spring, whose end was never written and never will be written.
AN ORIENTAL EXERCISE
In the Tai Chi meditation and dance, there are certain practices for couples, that consist of pushing your lover with your hands and being pushed back at the same time.
In fact, this is about preserving a very easy contact with the partner, so that you would be able to feel what he or she feels; this allows us to be able to spontaneously answer to this feeling translated by a game of reverberations and echoes of the energies that pass through our hands.
This intuitive answer is the true guide of harmonious dance, when those gliding movements of leading the dance or allowing to be lead are by far more important than learning the steps or the rhythmic music.