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L E A R N H O W T O A V O I D E J A C U L A T I O N
The more you will practice the exercises presented on our site so far, the easier it will be for you to practice the ones that follow and avoid crossing the point of non-return.
The most important thing that you must do is to maintain the awareness of your own arousal rhythm and to stop before you reach the point when stopping is unnecessary.
The name given to this technique in sexology is the stop/start technique and it has at its foundations the idea that it is better to stop sooner than too late.
Probably in the beginning, you will need to cease the stimulation for 30-40 seconds, so that the impulse to ejaculate will have time to fade away.
The profound breath described in the article Breath control - The basics in sexual continence is highly important in controlling the rhythm of your arousal and in avoiding ejaculation.
However, some men practice sexual continence, breathe rapidly in order to avoid ejaculation (the yogic tradition named this pattern of breathing the fire breathing), and direct the sexual energy to the area of the head. The deep breathing will help you acquire a state of inner calm and peace, while the rapid breathing helps you transform the sexual energy in inner "fire".
THE PC MUSCLE CONTRACTION
As we already mentioned, the PC muscle surrounds the prostate through which the semen must pass before expulsion.
If you learn how to contract the prostate during the orgasm in the contraction phase (when the prostate contracts involuntarily), you will learn to avoid the discharge of semen. The dreadful point of non-return is situated somewhere between contractions and expulsion.
A man who practice lovemaking with sexual continence describes his experience in the following terms: "I avoid ejaculation simply by contracting my PC muscle at the right time. It took some time to reach this result, but it definitely is worth the effort."
Many specialists in sexology recommend the squeezing of the penis (see also the article Squeezing - A secret to avoid ejaculation), a technique that was developed for men confronted with premature ejaculation.
The exercise is quite simple. Place the index and middle finger of the right hand on the posterior part of the penis, and the thumb on its anterior side and then squeeze. Some men hold their penis as they hold the handle of a bicycle, with all their hand, and this helps them reduce their excitation.
Although these techniques may be very effective in the solo practice, they are quite inappropriate when making love, because they imply solitude. However, if this is the only way for you to avoid ejaculation, you should do this nonetheless.
Another effective technique is to press the base of your penis, as this pressure will help you control your arousal and will strengthen your erections.
The pressure of the point between the anus and sex while contracting the PC muscle is one of the most ancient Taoist techniques used for the control of the sexual energy.
This helps to the delay of ejaculation through the focus of attention as well as through the interruption of the ejaculatory flux. First, locate the point situated in front of the anus. If you identified the correct area, then you should feel a small hollow when you press.
You will then have to push a little upwards, until you feel an articulation. You may use this technique even during intercourse without pulling out.