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L E T ' S T A L K A B O U T S E X U A L C O N T I N E N C E

WHAT IS "SEXUAL CONTINENCE"?

It is described simply by means of the injunction to make love "without emitting semen", or by the recommendation that one should fix, hold, contain, stop, or stabilize one's semen, or by speaking about sex as being timeless or endless.
Because there is no accidental male sexual release in sexual continence, erotic fusion between lovers is not forced to end. Therefore this type of lovemaking provides the unhurried sexual context that allows lovers to become immersed in the endless immediate present moment, while their bodies spontaneously move together as one.

WHY SHOULD I DO THIS?

Of course you will say: " OK, I understand what SEXUAL CONTINENCE means, but why should I do this? What does it offer me? ". Here follows the answer. Lovers ascend to an altered state of consciousness during "endless" magical sex, not because there has been generated so much friction, tension, or electricity, but because they learn to discover the other side of lovemaking - ecstasy.
Therefore mystical sexual continence does not primarily refer to a particular sexual duration, but to the state of mind during sex, an attitude in which you learn to live only in the present without worrying about anything else. Sexual feelings stream spontaneously and carry lovers along together in the effortless flow of whatever is happening. Conversely, of course, mental absorption and spontaneity become irrelevant if sex has already ended "prematurely". And it is impossible to be mentally absorbed in the present if one is chronically worried that lovemaking will come to an abrupt end. Sexual continence, is then the background of mystical sex within which one can have the time it takes to learn to let go of one's convert self-talk commentary and catch on to one's ability to make love spontaneously, freely, and naturally.
One more remark: a common characteristic of human beings is the search for happiness. To experience the ecstasy is a profund desire in all our hearts. SEXUAL CONTINENCE is a way to fulfil this desire.

THE HOW-TO OF SEXUAL CONTINENCE. FIRST STEP

First of all you have to understand that the whole process of lovemaking, up to the very moment of emission is voluntary, entirely under the control of the mind, and can be stopped at any point.
Now you can start to make love, but remember these rules:

1.SLOW MOTION. Do whatever you want (foreplay, intercourse) but in slow motion. Kiss in slow motion, touch in slow motion, thrust in slow motion, approach the whole experience so very gradually that you don't even begin to get close to the end.

2.SLOW BREATHING. Do whatever you want but breath in slow motion. If you lose the breathing control you can be sure you lose sexual control. So, when you notice you start to breath fast you have to slow down, breath easily, relax and wait until you calm down.

3.THREE SHALLOW AND ONE DEEP THRUST. Do whatever you want but practice three shallow and one deep thrust and carry out the thrusts eight-one times as a set. If you feel that you become too excited you should stop the thrusting motion immediately and wait until you calm down then resume again.

4.CONCENTRATION. Do whatever you want but keep your attention awake. Focus your attention on the erotic sensation and when you feel that you are getting close to the preorgastic level stop the thrusting motion immediately and focus your attention on the heart area.